“Hope
is the thing with feathers
That perches
in the soul
And sings the
tune without the words
And never
stops at all” - Emily Dickinson
It was only a paper plane, but for
Muhammad it was a memory.
As I folded it and placed it in his
outstretched hand, a wave of foreboding washed over me. Planes mean
something different to Syrians. Shrugging, I figured it had to be
more benign than the paper guns he had all too expertly fashioned
moments beforehand.
He flew it around the tent, grinning as
he watched it's lilting flight path. Pausing, he balanced the plane
in his hand and nestled the double barreled gun he'd made under it.
“This is how the planes shot us.” He demonstrated how his
government's air force dropped missiles on his home in Syria. “Boom!
Boom! Boom!” His wrist contorted as he showed how the planes
doubled back to finish the job.
I've worked with kids who've gone
through significant trauma, but never anything like this. How do you
process with a child why their government dropped missiles on their
house? For him violence on such a grand scale is normal. How does
that affect his heart?
I left that day feeling sad for him and
sadder still because he had no tears, no expressions of, “That was
wrong that happened to me.” I can't erase his painful memories nor
the fact that he hasn't seen his parents in 1.5 years.
Later on we visited his family again.
By now we'd grown more in our relationship. We'd heard about some
pigeons Muhammad kept as pets. So, despite hating pigeons I asked if
he'd show them to me. He hopped up and carried one in. A white dove.
This time it was Muhammad that handed
me the winged object. The bird in it's alarm defecated on me and
flapped madly until Muhammad showed me how to properly hold it. We
all giggled as I did my best to not appear completely terrified.
He then recounted how his other pigeon
had flown away. Those familiar to avian husbandry know that a bird's
wings must be clipped so it doesn't fly away. Muhammad, sweetheart,
didn't want to hurt his pigeons so he glued their wings instead. Of
course, in time the bird was able to loosen the glue and flee.
This
little boy's life life is marked by brutality. Yet when it came to
him to deliver a measure of that brutality to another he couldn't do
it. Clipping a bird isn't unreasonable; yet his heart remained soft.
An intrinsic understanding of what is
ok and what isn't has been placed within us. This remains despite all
– even if we ourselves try to clip its wings. Our souls understand.